Thursday, 28 March 2013

He was blamed for being bullied!!!




Written by Mathew Bent,
Tuesday, March 26th 2013

YESTERDAY, MY SON WAS BODYSLAMMED 3 TIMES BY A BULLY, THE SAME BULLY THAT HAS BEEN MAKING MY SON'S SCHOOL YEAR A NIGHTMARE, INCLUDING STEALING A NECKLACE I GAVE MY SON AS A SPECIAL GIFT FOR HIS FIRST YEAR OF LITTLE LEAGUE. LAST NIGHT, I CALLED THE COPS TO PUT A STOP TO THIS, AND WHEN THE COP CAME OVER, HE SAID THE SCHOOL POLICE OFFICER WOULD HANDLE THE CASE. WHEN I GOT A CALL TODAY FROM THE RVMS P...SLO, HE TOLD ME THAT BECAUSE MY SON VOLUNTARILY WALKED INTO THE AREA THAT THE BULLY WAS, THAT IT WAS MY SON'S FAULT FOR GOING "INTO THE LIONS DEN" AND THERE WAS NOTHING HE WOULD DO ABOUT IT. WHEN I TOLD THE OFFICER THAT THIS BULLY HAD BEEN BULLYING MY SON ALL YEAR, HE SAID HE ONLY TAKES ONE ISSUE AT A TIME AND THE PAST WAS DONE, AND THE NECKLACE WAS THE BULLY'S BECAUSE THE BULLY WAS ABLE TO NAME A STORE WHERE THEY SELL THEM. THE KAUKAUNA AREA SCHOOLS IS PROTECTING BULLIES AND IGNORING THEIR VICTIMS! PLEASE SHARE AND SEND A MESSAGE TO EVERY SCHOOL DISTRICT THAT PROTECTING BULLIES AND DOING NOTHING ABOUT THEIR ACTIONS IS WRONG!! MY SON HAS BEEN BULLIED ALL SCHOOL YEAR BY THIS GROUP OF THUGS, AND NOT 1 TEACHER, ADMINISTRATOR, COUNCILLOR OR OFFICER WILL DO ANYTHING TO MAKE IT STOP, THEY ONLY OFFER EXCUSES AND BLAME THE VICTIMS!!! PLEASE HELP ME IN THE EFFORT TO STOP BULLYING!!!
 
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Tuesday, 26 March 2013

Are you KID-ing?



My daughter suffers from Tourette syndrome, ADD and OCD but yet her anxiety is the most debilitating of all. My husband and I were seeking some sort of plan and/or method to help us help her . We received a meeting invitation from a mental health councillor who had observed  our daughter, (with mine and the school's permission), with an idea in mind.

My husband and I were a bit reluctant to listen to this person's idea of help, as we had been disappointed before, but were pleasantly surprised with her educated assessment and common sense approach to the matter.

Of course most of us parents, without wanting or knowing, use anti productive methods of dealing with our childrens' negative issues. Feeling compassion for my daughter, and wanting to be the perfect momma bird, all I want to do is protect my daughter and prevent any more sadness due to her anxiety. This is impossible!

So the counsellor gave us many coping skills and a better understanding of the illness and why people with anxiety do and feel like they do. She also gave us the proper way to approach our daughter during a panic attack, along with what to say and the proper wording to use.

All was well until.......

She asked us what would happen if , when our daughter became anxious, you would kindly and calmly ask her to go to her room. So my husband responds by asking "You mean lock her in her room?" She asks "She wouldn't go and stay in her room if you asked her?" My husband and I just looked at each other. The same expressionless faces we had when one doctor told us to dress our daughter  in the morning and forcibly place her on the bus if she was refusing to do so on her own.)

Wikipedia: Experiencing a panic attack has been said to be one of the most intensely frightening, upsetting and uncomfortable experiences of a person's life and may take days to initially recover from.

For those parents experiencing similar situations, can you even imagine your child, calmly and voluntarily, going and staying in their room all while experiencing a panic attack?

So I answered by telling her this "If we ever locked her in her room during a panic attack, she would most likely break the window to free herself." She appeared somewhat surprised, which surprised me.

So why do I have a photo of a baby goat (kid) at the top of this post. First of all, I own a little goat farm and secondly, that little kid and my kid have a lot in common.

Imagine taking this baby goat, (all hyper, literally hopping around, climbing everything and anything possible, and trying to flee), and dressing it. Start with underwear, socks....you get the drift.... then pick it up and place it on a school bus, and walk away.

 This mental picture I've created is absolutely absurd, but as many parents will attest, so are the un-thought out recommendations we receive from certain experts and professionals in the field child psychiatry.

We absolutely need these specialists. Sometimes, though, I feel like I'm teaching them a bit of common sense.

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Sunday, 24 March 2013

A letter to Victoria's Secret from Rev Evan Dolive

From Rev Evan Dolin's blog http://evandolive.com/

Dear Victoria’s Secret,

I am a father of a three year old girl. She loves princesses, Dora the Explorer, Doc McStuffins and drawing pictures for people. Her favorite foods are peanut butter and jelly, cheese and pistachios.
Even though she is only three, as a parent I have had those thoughts of my daughter growing up and not being the little girl she is now. It is true what they say about kids, they grow up fast. No matter how hard I try I know that she will not be the little ball of energy she is now; one day she will be a rebellious teenager that will more than likely think her dad is a total goof ball and would want to distance herself from my embarrassing presence.

I know that this is far down the line and I try to spend as much time as I can with her making memories of this special time.
But as I read an article today posted on The Black Sphere, it really got me thinking that maybe the culture that we currently find ourselves in is not helping the cause.
Recently I read an article that Victoria’s Secret is launching a line of underwear and bras aimed at middle school aged children. The line will be called “Bright Young Things” and will feature ” lace black cheeksters with the word “Wild” emblazoned on them, green and white polka-dot hipsters screen printed with “Feeling Lucky?” and a lace trim thong with the words, “Call me” on the front.”
As a dad, this makes me sick.

I believe that this sends the wrong message to not only my daughter but to all young girls.

I don’t want my daughter to ever think that her self-worth and acceptance by others is based on the choice of her undergarments. I don’t want my daughter to ever think that to be popular or even attractive she has to have emblazon words on her bottom.

I want my daughter (and every girl) to be faced with tough decisions in her formative years of adolescence. Decisions like should I be a doctor or a lawyer? Should I take calculus as a junior or a senior? Do I want to go to Texas A&M or University of Texas or some Ivy League School? Should I raise awareness for slave trafficking or lack of water in developing nations? There are many, many more questions that all young women should be asking themselves… not will a boy (or girl) like me if I wear a “call me” thong?

I want my daughter to know that she is perfect the way she is; I want my daughter to know that no matter what underwear she is wearing it does not define her.

I believe that this new line “Bright Young Things” thwarts the efforts of empowering young women in this county. “Bright Young Things” gives off the message that women are sex objects. This new line promotes it at a dangerously young age.

I implore you to reconsider your decision to start this line.
By doing so you will put young girl’s self-esteem, self-worth and pride above profits.
Sincerely,
Rev. Evan Dolive
Houston, TX

Wednesday, 20 March 2013

TS Plus National Conference 2013

National Conference

on TS Plus

September 26 - 28, 2013

http://www.tourette.ca/eventscalendar-event.php?entry_id=17176


The 2013 National Conference on TS Plus will be held in Mississauga,
 Ontario from Thursday, September 26th to Saturday, September 28th.

Location:

Delta Meadowvale Resort &
Conference Centre
6750 Mississauga Road

Mississauga, ON

tsfc@tourette.ca
.

Conference Streams

  • Associated Professional Track (Thursday)
  • Educator Track (Friday)
  • General Track (Friday & Saturday)
  • Adults With TS Track (Friday & Saturday)
  • Children’s Program (Friday & Saturday)
  • Youth Program (Friday & Saturday)

During the weekend you will:

  • Understand TS better than you ever thought was possible
  • Take home life-changing strategies from exceptional speakers
  • Learn in a welcoming, supportive, community environment
  • Interact with peers
  • Leave with a renewed confidence and direction
tsfc@tourette.ca.

Six words that describe me (as per my husband)


One of Mama Kat's writing prompts was to ask a loved one to describe me in only 6 words so I "cornered" my husband in to taking part in this "exercise". I specifically told him to use any 6 words, good or bad, and this is what he came up with:

1. funny
2. caring/ compassionate                 
3. patient
4. persevering
5. pretty
6. brave/strong

This list is as much an aphrodisiac as "The Notebook"!!
I think we will soon be going on a long awaited weekend get away (wink! wink!)

What does your list look like?

Thursday, 14 March 2013

Back book blurb. (Writing prompt from mamakatslosinit.com/)


Danica Surette was born in Yarmouth Nova Scotia, where she resides to this day.

 After graduating from high school in 1992, she attended  college in Yarmouth where she graduated from a Licensed Practical Nursing (LPN) program in 1993

 Following this graduation, she began working the first of eight years at a boarding home for seniors, and adults with special needs, and began a family with her husband Ian Surette.

 As her husband’s work consisted of shift work, including nights, she decided to change careers so as to facilitate her new family life, and became a waitress.

 Within a few years her cousin Pierrette d’Entremont contacted her about developing a new business centred on infant and special needs products that she had envisioned a few years back.

 Through her cousin’s coaching, experience and education in the field of kinesiology, Danica began a new chapter in her life as Vice-President and Sales Manager of Pida Infant & Maternity Products Ltd. (presently Sentio Life Solutions) Combining 8 years of nursing practise with excellent research skills, Danica was a perfect fit for the Pida project.



Danica’s focus was to help the company get off its feet in the early stages. Once this was realised and having a child with TS who needed more attention, she returned to family life as before.

 Being her daughter’s advocate, and realising the need for children’s literature on Tourette syndrome, she began her newest chapter in life, and became an author. Her new focus is educating children and adults about TS, (along with many more subjects) and all that it entails.
 

Wednesday, 6 March 2013

My children's book on ethics


Nurses with purses,

Cooks with books, and

Ladies in Mercedes,

Were all taking a look?

 

What did they see over the hill?

Was someone hurt or someone ill?

Perhaps it‘s serious or perhaps it’s bad?

I went to see along with my dad.

 

What a sight to see!

What just took place?

There’s powder in the air,

With the sweetest of taste!

 

Circles and circles were rolling around.

Some in the road and some on the ground!

I covered my ears,

From the awful  loud sounds!

 

The colors were awesome

and the smells even better.

I imagined a ton.

My mouth  got wetter.

 

One look at each other,

And down we went.

It was crazy and crowded,

The truck was all bent.

 

The door to the truck opened

 And all the donuts fell out.

Everyone was smiling,

Only the driver wore a pout.

 

People were filling their bags and their totes,

With boxes of donuts they liked the most.

But dad and I were saving all that we could,

Giving back to the driver all that we should.

 

 Happy was the driver,

From the help that we gave.

A smile on his face,

From the donuts we saved.

 

I knew we did right,

And happy was I,

But one bite I wished for,

 I thought with a sigh.

 

It was a whole week later,

While sitting for lunch,

We heard a knock at the door,

Mom answered at once.

 

My eyes got big.

A smile grew on my face.

A thank you note from the driver

And donuts by the case.